Rock singer and Beartooth frontman Caleb Shomo is reflecting on his decision to come out as a “proudly gay man” in May 2026. During an appearance on “Vanderpump Rules” stars Katie Maloney and Dayna Kathan’s podcast, “Disrespectfully,” the 33-year-old admitted that while he was happy with his decision to now live life on his terms, he is still working to “forgive himself” for hiding for so long.
According to a previous report from The Blast, Caleb’s coming-out story rocked the internet, primarily because of his previous 14-year marriage to his wife, Fleur Shomo. He told the Bravo personalities during his recent interview that the moment was especially difficult.
“I was just bawling my f-cking eyes out, trying so hard to verbalize,” Caleb said. “And I really struggle to verbalize things, and this is obviously such an intense thing, and I’m feeling so nervous and so scared in the situation that it was really, really difficult to verbalize, and I didn’t verbalize it very well.”
Caleb Shomo Is Working Hard To ‘Forgive’ Himself After Hiding His True Feelings For So Long
While speaking with his wife, Caleb said he had told her he had been suppressing his feelings about men for far too long. “There’s something there that I’ve been running from for a long f-cking time. And I don’t think I want to run anymore,” he recalled telling her.
Following that, Caleb said everything just started coming out before revealing he began seeing a therapist to help with his “severe ADHD.”
Additionally, the singer used exercise, healthy foods, sleep, and creativity to help him cope with his feelings. And although he’s not fully there yet, Caleb said his primary goal is to help others get to a place where they can be free and where he can “forgive” himself.
“I feel like I’m on the path,” the “I Was Alive” singer shared. “I’m letting this happen. I’m not trying to rush anything. I’m not trying to force anything. It’s just one step at a time.”
Caleb Remembers Being Ridiculed By Kids At School
Elsewhere in the podcast, Caleb spoke with Maloney and Kathan about one of his core childhood memories, sharing that it happened when he was “probably six or seven.”
The rock singer said he was with his mom and brother in a department store when he picked out a ring his mom labeled a “girls’ ring.” At the time, Caleb wasn’t phased by the news; however, when he wore it to school the next day, he said he was severely “ridiculed” by the kids.
“I just freaked out and didn’t know what was going on and threw it out the window,” he said. “It was like, ‘F-ck, don’t do that. Whatever that is, let’s keep that away.’”
Caleb said he learned at that moment that he had a “very strong feminine” side, but also that he had to keep it hidden in his Midwestern town. Additionally, he was hearing even more negative comments about the LGBTQ+ community from people closest to him, making it even more challenging for him to come to terms with his feelings.
“So that feeling that I had, which I now understand was my sexuality, I just viewed and compartmentalized as just self-hatred. It’s this thing that’s evil in me, and okay, you fight this with all of your might. And that’s the right thing to do. You f-cking pray about it,” he said.
Caleb Shomo Came Out As Gay With An Emotional Social Media Post
Te amamos, Caleb Shomo! 🖤
O vocalista do Beartooth declarou que é gay em um novo post publicado no seu Instagram! pic.twitter.com/UJFydkIJb7
— downstage (@downstagebra) May 23, 2026
Caleb responded to fan speculation about his sexuality in May 2026, writing on social media that he identified as a “proudly gay man.” He went on to say that he had struggled with his feelings for a while, calling them “difficult to navigate.”
Caleb, a Columbus, Ohio, native, went on to say that he had been using his music over the years to explore different themes, including religion, depression, self-hatred, and hopelessness. “I am grateful for all these albums, yet feel embarrassed at times that I wouldn’t allow myself to really dig up the roots for so long,” he said.
Fleur Shomo Responded To Her Husband’s Coming Out Post With A Candid Admission Of Her Own
Caleb’s wife, Fleur, broke her silence on Caleb’s admission hours after, calling the last several months a “very disorientating and hurtful time to navigate.” Despite her feelings of resentment, Fleur expressed sadness after learning her husband had dealt with “confusion and pain” for many years.
“You never want anything more for your person than for them to just be ok. You also ask yourself constantly if you’re a bad person for wondering wtf this means for your world & the anger you also feel,” she added.
Continuing, Fleur pointed out the “duality of this situation,” acknowledging that while she supports Caleb, she’s also processing the loss of her marriage. “You can love and support your person through the hardest time in their life, whilst also be completely demolished & lose yourself at the same time,” she shared.
